The Scorpion and The Frog

I talk to my friends (and anyone who appears to be interested) a lot about Letting Go and Trusting Life.  What it means to them.  What it doesn’t mean.  The difference between Trusting and Surrendering.  And many similar Trust-like topics.

Back to back, here are two girlfriends’ takes on Trusting.

Girlfriend number one:

“I Trust Because, Well… I Just Do”

As we sat down with our breakfast, coffee, and tea, my friend starts by telling me she hasn’t given Trust a lot of thought, she just trusts.  She says that over the years, she has been described as flippant, not very deep, and to some, not much of a ‘thinker‘.  But to that she says, “Why over analyze everything?  It’s exhausting!”

I think, ‘Yes, why do people do that?!’  Then quickly remind myself that I am the former Queen of the Land of Over-Thinkers.  Okay, perhaps I’m Queen Emeritus.  Back to my friend….

She continued,

The way I operate my life is to go with the flow.  I trust that everything is going to be okay.  But that doesn’t mean that I’m not going to take action.  I still have to work and be thoughtful about my actions.  I still have to handle my business.

For me, I know and trust that everything is going to be okay.  What’s the alternative?  Worry?  Fret?  Stir up a bunch of stuff?  Not sleep?  That just doesn’t make sense to me.

And what if it turns out badly?  So what?  You deal with that as it arises and keep going.  At the end of the day, I can only do what I can do, and at that point, it’s time to simply let go.”

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Now, girlfriend number two lives in a different city, so unfortunately, I couldn’t sit and enjoy her company while chatting about Trust.  I was happy however, to receive her honest email, which I thoroughly enjoyed while solo sipping my cuppa.  I’ve entitled her portion:

“The Thought of Letting Go Brings Tears to My Eyes”

She writes,

“I’ve been given an interesting task.  A friend of mine has asked me to tell her a story of a time I “Trusted Life.”  I’ve been stumped.  The more I’ve thought about it, the more I’ve realized that maybe I don’t Trust Life very much.  And maybe this is what I was meant to learn from my dear friend.

I’m a planner.  I mean a serious, I plan everything kind of girl.  I’ve always been this way.  Even as a child, I was always taking a toy car, pulling out a map, and planning a route to get somewhere.  I find it very difficult to do anything without having everything planned out ahead of time.

Recently, I have been frustrated because things aren’t happening the way I planned.  I know it’s a common problem, but I have not been handling it well.  I’ve been ruminating over this issue again today and it dawned on me that maybe I just need to Trust Life and realize that things are happening the way they are supposed to happen for whatever reason.  I just need to let go, control what I can, and trust that things will happen in their own way and time.

Trust me, even though this makes sense to me, I find it completely foreign and frightening as well.  The mere thought of just letting go is enough to bring tears to my eyes.  But hey, I’m on a journey and I guess for once, it won’t hurt for me not to know all of the details of what will happen along the way.”

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The Scorpion and The Frog

scorpion and the frogAs I look at both girlfriends’ ideas on Trust, I’m not comparing for a ‘right way’ or a ‘wrong way’.  What I’m struck with is how differently we approach Trusting from our core.  And I’m reminded of the fable of the scorpion and the frog.

The story goes that the scorpion asks the frog to take him across the river.  The frog is hesitant to do so, fearing the scorpion will sting him.  The scorpion reassures the frog that he will not sting him — if he did, the frog would sink, and he himself would drown.  After hearing this, the frog agrees, only to be stung by the scorpion mid-river!  When he asks the scorpion why he did it, the scorpion replied, “I’m a scorpion;  it’s in my nature.”

I’ve often wondered about stories like the scorpion and the frog — is it really in our nature to be a certain way?  In our core?  When I say, “I’m just wired to be like…” whatever it is, is that really the truth?  For me, and for some aspects of my personality, I say, “Absolutely.”  But for other aspects of my personality, I’d argue that it may have been easier or more convenient at the time to ‘be a certain way’, or ‘do a certain thing’.

And because I believe that as humans, we are complex beings, with intricacies we don’t even fully understand, I ask you, when it comes to the topic of Trusting, consider Trusting Life TODAY.  Plan all you’d like.  Get out your map and figure out your route.  Do whatever it is that you do, that makes you uniquely and beautifully you….

…And after you’ve done all…stand.  Stand and Trust that you are taken care of.  And if you don’t do so hot one day, no big deal.  Just Trust Life Today.  And the next Today.  And the next Today.

Day by day.

Comments

  1. Dawn says

    I am the planner, but would love to be more go with the flow. I am trying to trust life after a life altering betrayal and an upcoming divorce. I need to just let life happen and trust I will end up where I am supposed to be. I wish it was easier for me to “let go” of my detail oriented personality even just a little. At least this story helped me realize I can still trust life while planning each detail.

    • admin says

      Dawn, I have a feeling that your detail oriented personality probably serves you very well – - from one detail oriented person to another. :-) I’m guessing it’s a real strength of yours. Your last sentence really nails it – you CAN still trust while planning each detail. The planning and the trusting make a nice balance – kind of yin and yang-like.

      You mentioned you wish it were easier to let go. Just remind yourself – one day at a time (really, one moment at a time). I know I write a lot about Trusting Life, but as you may have noticed, the actual name of my website is Trust Life Today. The TODAY is very important. Day by day, Dawn. Moment by moment. Good luck. ~ Leslie