Sneak Peek into the recently released book: Love, Trust & Pixie Dust.
Excerpt from Chapter 3: It Is What It Is.
“My life has been filled with many misfortunes, most of which never happened.” ~ Mark Twain
Why Trust Is Important
Why Should We Trust Life?
Cliches become cliches mostly because they speak the truth. So whether you loathe or love the cliche It Is What It Is, there’s a whole lot of truth in it. That said, why should we even bother trusting?
One of my dear friends decided to play Devil’s Advocate one day, and sent me an email asking, “Why should we trust life?” I say Devil’s Advocate because he wasn’t asking the question expecting a response, but rather for me to consider how I’d respond to someone reading my blog or even to you sitting here now, holding this book and wondering, Yeah, why should I trust life?
There is a simple, one-word response to the question — and that word is: Peace. Being at peace in our everyday lives is the ultimate end goal and reason behind why we trust. Trust unlocks the door to peace. But there’s more….
The Crux of the Matter: What IS Versus What IF
Peace is why we trust, yes, but there’s more. First off, put yourself in the mindset of thinking of trusting life as a series of events. The series starts with the awareness/acceptance of What IS, which in many cases is the same as letting go. Essentially, What IS, is looking at a situation and NOT inserting layer upon layer of What IF: “What IF I lose my job? What IF he leaves me? What IF I get sick?” No, no, no. What IS means being grounded in seeing the truth, in not inventing the stuff that makes our heads spin out of control.
Think: whatever you are worrying about or holding on to (the What IF) and imagine yourself letting go of those What IFs and seeing What Truly IS.
Once you are aware and accept What IS, the enormous amount of energy you were giving to the worry — or the What IFs — now ends. It has no power over you. This is key, because before you are aware and accept What IS, your mind races with thoughts of worry and fear. Thoughts of What IF often lead to the invention of entirely fictitious situations (which I, and Mark Twain might add, hardly ever end up happening). These ungrounded thoughts are what take up so much unnecessary energy. They often lead to more worry, more fear. You become restless and irritable, you lose sleep. The snowball effect is in full force at this point. The “monkey-mind” is cranked up in high gear, jumping from one thought to another and another, not easily quieted. I think it’s pretty safe to say we’ve all experienced monkey-mind to one degree or another.
Field of Pure Awareness
It is when we become aware, and accept What IS, that the monkey-mind quiets, and we can Be. Once we are in a state of Being, we are able to observe moment by moment, from the highest field of all, Pure Awareness.
Now, if it has all made sense up to this point, but I just lost you with the Pure Awareness comment, hang tight. I want to take it a step further and deeper. Once you’re observing moment by moment, no longer in the worry-place and completely out of the monkey-mind chatter, whatever action you take will be in harmony with this field of Pure Awareness. Therefore, whatever action you take will be for the highest good for all. Remember the Sufi story of the warrior and his bride? (from Chapter 2)
By trusting life, we accept What IS, quieting the conflict in the monkey-mind and freeing us to observe and then act from Pure Awareness, which will be for the highest good of all. Operating for the highest good of all also takes us to the next level: Life is not just about us at an individual level, but as living beings we are all connected in a very intimate way. For that reason, operating for the highest good of all is something to strive for.
By trusting, we marry our free will with the Divine, knowing that we are taken care of. We are not alone in our worries or our struggles. We are never alone.
You are never alone.
I have attempted to explain in words what is a knowing within me. I encourage you to add to these concepts, question them, mold them and make them yours, changing the verbiage to suit your taste. In doing so, you will land on your Truth, something that resonates and works for you.
Take a moment to consider how you typically approach life. Which side of the cattle guard do you tend to hang out on? The What IF side or the What IS side? Depending where you are on the spectrum will immediately tell you what your beliefs are about how trust works. And by the way, this has nothing to do with religion. You may be the most religious person out there, attending every mass and service offered, yet between each mass, each service — maybe even during each one — you’re worrying about all of the What IFs in your life. Becoming aware and accepting What IS is a spiritual belief and practice that anyone can adopt, regardless of religious beliefs.
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