Why Trust Is Important

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Excerpt from Chapter 3: It Is What It Is.

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“My life has been filled with many misfortunes, most of which never happened.”  ~ Mark Twain

Why Trust Is Important

Why Should We Trust Life?

Cliches become cliches mostly because they speak the truth.  So whether you loathe or love the cliche It Is What It Is, there’s a whole lot of truth in it.  That said, why should we even bother trusting?

One of my dear friends decided to play Devil’s Advocate one day, and sent me an email asking, “Why should we trust life?”  I say Devil’s Advocate because he wasn’t asking the question expecting a response, but rather for me to consider how I’d respond to someone reading my blog or even to you sitting here now, holding this book and wondering, Yeah, why should I trust life?

There is a simple, one-word response to the question — and that word is:  Peace.  Being at peace in our everyday lives is the ultimate end goal and reason behind why we trust.  Trust unlocks the door to peace.  But there’s more….

The Crux of the Matter:  What IS Versus What IF

Peace is why we trust, yes, but there’s more.  First off, put yourself in the mindset of thinking of trusting life as a series of events.  The series starts with the awareness/acceptance of What IS, which in many cases is the same as letting go.  Essentially, What IS, is looking at a situation and NOT inserting layer upon layer of What IF:  “What IF I lose my job?  What IF he leaves me?   What IF I get sick?”  No, no, no.  What IS means being grounded in seeing the truth, in not inventing the stuff that makes our heads spin out of control.

Think:  whatever you are worrying about or holding on to (the What IF) and imagine yourself letting go of those What IFs and seeing What Truly IS.

Once you are aware and accept What IS, the enormous amount of energy you were giving to the worry — or the What IFs — now ends.  It has no power over you.  This is key, because before you are aware and accept What IS, your mind races with thoughts of worry and fear.  Thoughts of What IF often lead to the invention of entirely fictitious situations (which I, and Mark Twain might add, hardly ever end up happening).  These ungrounded thoughts are what take up so much unnecessary energy.  They often lead to more worry, more fear.  You become restless and irritable, you lose sleep.  The snowball effect is in full force at this point.  The “monkey-mind” is cranked up in high gear, jumping from one thought to another and another, not easily quieted.  I think it’s pretty safe to say we’ve all experienced monkey-mind to one degree or another.

Field of Pure Awareness

It is when we become aware, and accept What IS, that the monkey-mind quiets, and we can Be.  Once we are in a state of Being, we are able to observe moment by moment, from the highest field of all, Pure Awareness.

Now, if it has all made sense up to this point, but I just lost you with the Pure Awareness comment, hang tight.  I want to take it a step further and deeper.  Once you’re observing moment by moment, no longer in the worry-place and completely out of the monkey-mind chatter, whatever action you take will be in harmony with this field of Pure Awareness.  Therefore, whatever action you take will be for the highest good for all.  Remember the Sufi story of the warrior and his bride?  (from Chapter 2)

By trusting life, we accept What IS, quieting the conflict in the monkey-mind and freeing us to observe and then act from Pure Awareness, which will be for the highest good of all.  Operating for the highest good of all also takes us to the next level:  Life is not just about us at an individual level, but as living beings we are all connected in a very intimate way.  For that reason, operating for the highest good of all is something to strive for.

By trusting, we marry our free will with the Divine, knowing that we are taken care of.  We are not alone in our worries or our struggles.  We are never alone.

You are never alone.

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I have attempted to explain in words what is a knowing within me.  I encourage you to add to these concepts, question them, mold them and make them yours, changing the verbiage to suit your taste.  In doing so, you will land on your Truth, something that resonates and works for you.

Take a moment to consider how you typically approach life.  Which side of the cattle guard do you tend to hang out on?  The What IF side or the What IS side?  Depending where you are on the spectrum will immediately tell you what your beliefs are about how trust works.  And by the way, this has nothing to do with religion.  You may be the most religious person out there, attending every mass and service offered, yet between each mass, each service — maybe even during each one — you’re worrying about all of the What IFs in your life.  Becoming aware and accepting What IS is a spiritual belief and practice that anyone can adopt, regardless of religious beliefs.

 

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The Secret to Breaking Out of Jail

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Breaking Out of Jail

There’s no nice way to say this:  being in jail would suck.  I’m not here today to put a positive spin on prison life — although, more power to the inmate who can.  I sincerely mean that; it would make one heck of a story.  In fact, if there are any inmates out there reading this blog, contact me.  I’d love to hear about your positive prison experience, how you gained a skill, or how prison saved your life.  I know those stories exist.  I’m completely captivated each time I hear one.

I’m equally intrigued by those of us living in our own self-made prisons.  Pay attention, I may just be talking to you.

Have you ever:

  • held a long-term grudge?
  • resented someone deeply?  (mildly?)
  • felt self-righteous because of what someone else did to you?
  • lashed back at someone?
  • deliberately chosen not to forgive someone?
  • thought of ways to get even, then acted on them?

I’m not talking about plots so sinister that they actually would land you in jail, I’m talking about the everyday stuff we do when we think we’re protecting ourselves — using our so-called defense mechanisms.  As long as I hold this grudge, then I’m protecting myself.  As long as I don’t forgive you, then I’m protecting myself.  As long as I somehow avenge what you did to me, then I’m protecting myself.

Now who’s in prison?  The person who won’t Let Go.

I call this:

The Prison of Self-Righteous Resentment

In the prison of self-righteous resentment, we get to be right.  Woo-hoo (said with flat, dry sarcasm).  Along with that, we get to be unhappy.  We have the displeasure of reliving the infraction over and over.

But we also get a catchy story to tell!  One that’s interesting.  And exciting.  Full of drama, action, and suspense.  One that gets us lots of attention.  People stop to watch the aftermath of a car wreck, don’t they?

Stop your drama.  YOU are the car wreck they’re stopping to watch.

And as long as you are the car wreck, you’re also the one remaining not-so-nice and cozy… in your self-made prison.

Here’s the thing:

You Have the Key

The cell you’ve fashioned may feel more airtight than any chamber you can imagine in the dankest, darkest dungeon, but turn around.  Look for the light, no matter how small it is, streaming through the keyhole.  You have the key. 

 

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(Or the slippers, Dorothy.  You’ve had them all along.)

Use your inner key:  Trust yourself.  Act on that trust, knowing you are strong enough to relinquish the grudge.  You’re strong enough to work through your resentment.  You’re strong enough to forgive.  Because each one of these acts is for the good of you, your health, your well being, your concentration at work, your even temperament with your children, your sleep at night, your inner peace.

It’s for the good of you.  And it starts with you, within you.  There’s no need for breaking out of jail — you hold the key.  Use it and walk out, directly into the light and life that await you.  Free yourself.

Let go.  Trust.

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The Gift of Forrest Gump

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I imagine we’re all familiar with the 1994 film Forrest Gump.  Forrest, the main character, has been described as leading a serendipitous life.  At each turn it appears that Life, with all its twists and turns, is smiling down on him.

He managed to meet not one, not two, but three US presidents: JFK, LBJ, and Richard Nixon.  He was constantly in the right place at the right time – even when it appeared he was in the wrong place at the wrong time.  Like when he served and fought in Vietnam, and was later awarded the Medal of Honor.  And after living through a terrible hurricane that damaged all the other shrimping boats along the Gulf, only to have his remain intact, he achieved more financial success than he could’ve ever imagined.  Throughout the movie, there were many more examples of how he was present at the exact moment something incredible was happening – things that are written about in history books.  And so his story goes.

A few years ago, while visiting Savannah, Georgia, I noticed a very familiar looking clock tower, but couldn’t remember where I’d seen it.  The fact that I couldn’t place it was really bugging me, so I stared longer.  An off duty Savannah tour guide saw me looking up at it.  He approached me, and to my relief, explained where I had seen it:  Forrest Gump had sat on the bench under it when the feather fell at his feet.  Yes.  That was it!

 

 

And in that moment, I remembered a phrase a friend once told me many years ago.  While describing different highlights of his life, he had summed up certain points by saying with a chuckle, “I’ve pretty much Forrest Gumped my way through life.”  [I'm guessing most of you have heard this phrase, and if not, you can imagine what it means.  Urban dictionary.com states:  Forrest gumped - a way of making it through a situation successfully through sheer dumb luck.]

At the time, I thought it a unique and somewhat colorful thing to say.  But now, in pondering the sentence further, I wonder if it was just a modest  thing to say?  Or somehow, although clever in word choice, perhaps the truth and essence of it was really more about Trusting.

Did my friend really Forrest Gump his way through life, or had he Trusted?

That question begs the next:

Is it Serendipity or Trust?

I wonder, similar to my friend, if Forrest Gump truly ‘Forrest Gumped’ his way through life, or was there more involved?  Did he trust in something larger than himself?  In what appeared to be numerous blunders and serendipitous moments, did he fundamentally know/live/feel the concept of Trust?  And more importantly, was the underlying message of Trust present in the movie, but as viewers, were we so wrapped up in the acting and scenes and dialogue, that perhaps we missed it?

At this point, you might be saying, “Okay, Leslie, remember throughout the movie, he kinda acted on impulse?  He didn’t put much thought or feeling into anything?”  Yeah, I remember that on the surface.  But there was more to our beloved protagonist than what was on the surface.  Forrest had an innate goodness to him.  In any given situation, he did what we would consider, “the right thing.”  Saving all of those soldiers, including going back for Bubba and Lt. Dan, dragging the unclothed Jenny off the stage with her guitar, always offering others a chocolate, taking care of his mother, and later Jenny, when she became ill, and on and on.

He didn’t appear to need to think about what to do, he just did it.  He felt the need to run, so he ran until he no longer wanted to.  He lived.  He lived in the present moment, every moment.

Or, maybe right now you’re saying, “Hello…it’s a MOVIE!!”  Yeah, I realize that, too.  But I don’t believe that movies are designed for entertainment purposes only.  No, movies that grab us like this one did, are as memorable as this one, and that we’re compelled to watch over and over each time we stumble upon it while flipping through channels – movies like this one are meant for more than entertainment.  Don’t you agree?

Hmm…are you still in the camp who believes Forrest Gump didn’t give much thought or feeling to Life?  I’ll leave you with this monologue from the movie:

Forrest Gump, speaking to Jenny’s grave:

Forrest Gump at Jenny's grave

You died on a Saturday morning.  And I had you placed here under our tree.  And I had that house of your father’s bulldozed to the ground.  Momma always said dyin’ was a part of life.  I sure wish it wasn’t.  Little Forrest, he’s doing just fine.  About to start school again soon.  I make his breakfast, lunch, and dinner every day.  I make sure he combs his hair and brushes his teeth every day.  Teaching him how to play ping-pong.  He’s really good.  We fish a lot.  And every night, we read a book.  He’s so smart, Jenny.  You’d be so proud of him.  I am.  He, uh, wrote a letter, and he says I can’t read it.  I’m not supposed to, so I’ll just leave it here for you.  Jenny, I don’t know if Momma was right or if, if it’s Lieutenant Dan.  I don’t know if we each have a destiny, or if we’re all just floating around accidental-like on a breeze, but I, I think maybe it’s both.  Maybe both is happening at the same time.  I miss you, Jenny.  If there’s anything you need, I won’t be far away.”

Forrest Gumping his way through life?  Or trusting in something bigger?  Deeper?  It doesn’t really matter which one he did.  Which do you choose?

Apologies:  I experienced major systems issues over the weekend.  If you received old posts from Trust Life Today due to the restoration of numerous files, I apologize.  Due to these issues, it forced me to review many of my previous posts…. which is when I ran across this one.  I wrote this back in April of 2011 and wanted to re-share it with you.

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Learning How to Trust — The Ultimate Guide

Access the Complete Trust Series from This Page

Thank you for joining me in this step-by-step guide to Learning How to Trust.

Below are titles and links to each of the seven posts in the Learning How to Trust series.  If you’re interested in learning how to trust, this guide is definitely for you.  While you’re reading through each post, please don’t hesitate to contact me at any time with questions, comments, concerns, anything.  This is what I do!  This is what I LOVE doing, sharing with others — how trust works… and ultimately, I want you to have the tools to bring more peace into your home, your life, your being.

Learning How to Trust Series, Complete Summary

Part 1:  “The First Step in Trusting. Can It Really Be That Simple?”  Click here for the full article.  

Part 2: “Why Don’t People Trust?”  Click here for the full article.

Part 3:  “Top 4 Beliefs For a Foundation in Trust”  Click here for the full article.

Part 4:  “How To Practice Trust as You Go About Your Day”  Click here for the full article.

Part 5:  “Who Is Really in Control?”  Click here for the full article.

Part 6:  “The Top 5 Reasons to Let Go of Control”  Click here for the full article. 

Part 7:  “Tell Me Again…Why Should I Trust?”  Click here for the full article.

 

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You Now Have the Key to Trust

It’s been a pleasure sharing this KEY information with you — information which has been life changing for me.

Please email me with questions or leave a comment below.  I’d love to connect with you!  leslie@trustlifetoday.com

As much as I’ve enjoyed sharing this guide with you, I must admit I’m eager to return to my typical writing style: story-telling, sharing insights into trust, love, peace, forgiveness, synchronicity…all of our favorite TLT topics!  :-)

Again, thank you for joining me on this journey of learning to trust.

In love and trust,
Leslie