A Solid Technique for Letting Go of the Past

As a beginning, middle, and end to this blog post, I could simply say that letting go of the past is easier said than done.  Period.  The end.

But that doesn’t do either of us much good.

It’s safe to say we’d both agree that no one really wants to walk around day after day holding on to anger, unable to forgive, worried about when the next shoe will drop.  No, of course not.  Yet how often do you find yourself doing precisely that?  Holding on, unable to let go.

You’re not alone.  We all do it.

Because of this, I’d like to offer a visual that you can access in under two seconds, something that will hopefully serve as a reminder, propelling you forward into a state of letting go (or at least provide a little nudge in that direction).  Continue Reading

Trusting Can Be So #!?!@#!

The thing that sucks about writing/talking about trust for a living is when trusting simply becomes #!?!@#! Take this morning: I was on the phone with my credit card company, followed by the wireless phone company for over two hours. OVER TWO HOURS I tell you! Finally (maybe) everything is PART WAY resolved. After I got off the phone and rubbed my red, hot ear, I decided only one thing would suffice: it was time to throw a toddler tantrum—kick, scream, the works!

But no…there was this calm, serene voice that said, “Remember, everything happens for a reason. Look for the lesson. Don’t get angry over the situation. Anger doesn’t help.” Blah, blah, blah…. Shut up already! I am angry!

Well, maybe not angry. Annoyed. SUPER annoyed!

Smudged Trust

 

There was suspected fraud on my credit card, not even actual fraud. Suspected fraud, what does that even mean? Steven, Fraud Supervisor, explained it to me (which made sense at the time…and totally evades me now).

This suspected fraud has led to a to-do list that is longer than Santa’s “good-list” on his best year. And oh!…the time I’m sure to spend completing this to-do list! I won’t go into details, mostly because you have your own annoying day-to-day issues to deal with; you don’t need to hear about mine. Besides, my day is not busier nor is my time more valuable than yours—yet it is this perceived loss of time I am so annoyed about.  Continue Reading

Time to Put Your Big Boots On

Anything Is Possible

Last week I wrote about experiencing more Heaven on Earth — what that looks like, how to feel it, how to sustain it, and even how NOT to beat yourself up after a screw up.  (It happens to the best of us.)

Out of the post, two groups emerged:

Group 1 sounded something like this:  “Right on!  I can do this!  A daily practice like this is totally within me!”  This group sounds eager, optimistic, free from heavy burden.  This group sounds like the child each one of us used to be.

Group 2 sounded a bit more like this:  “Is she f-ing kidding me?  She has no idea what I’m going through and if she only had a clue, she would know that what she’s suggesting is impossible, completely impossible.”  This group comes with a lot of baggage, baggage they have allowed to weigh them down.  They do not sound free or child-like.  I wonder, do they remember the simple, heart-lessons of Winnie-the-Pooh?  Or how about the magical spirit that dances within the pages of Alice in Wonderland?    

Of course, the two groups are on opposite ends of the spectrum — we can fall anywhere in between.  Maybe even from one day to the next.

Difference Between the Groups

The nutshell-difference between the two groups is this:  At some level, be it big or small, some part of Group 1 has embraced the idea that ultimately, learning to trust will serve their higher good.  They believe that trust brings peace and they want more peace in their lives.  Whether they admit it out loud or keep it tucked away inside, they know that anything is possible.

Group 1 may be gung-ho, like they sound above.  Or they may be apprehensive, which is perfectly fine with them, too.  They know they may (will) screw up, and they also know there is good that will come from the supposed screw up.  When it comes right down to it, they believe trusting is not just possible, but it’s also very doable.  So they make the decision to go for it.

anything is possibleOn the other hand, Group 2 looked at the reasons I offered (the reasons I choose to trust from the last post), they reflected on their past life experiences, and made the decision that in their specific situation, trusting was impossible.

Well, they are right on one front:  I don’t know what life events and experiences happened along the way to deliver them to where they are today.  But I do know that it is possible for them to trust.  It is possible for you to trust.  I am sure of it.  Anything is possible.

But here’s the thing…I’m not here to convince you of how trust works.  I didn’t start this blog to convince you of anything or to try to convert your thinking.  I started this blog to share my Truth and to serve as a guide for those who are interested in learning to love and trust themselves.

So if this is you, if you’re interested in learning to love yourself and trust yourself, as you learn to love and trust others, I invite you to put your Big Boots on and prepare for a grand Adventure.  I wish I could share the “how’s of trust” in an 850 word blog post like this one, but trust has a few more layers to it than that.

Two Easy Ways to Get Started

As I wrote in the last post, learning to trust yourself isn’t this thing we master.  We don’t check-the-box and say,  “Done!  What’s next?”  It’s a daily practice, and I’d be honored to serve as your guide if you’re interested in learning more about the practice of trust.  Two simple ways to get you actively moving along the trust-path are by reading A Guide to Trust (email me:  leslie@trustlifetoday.com and I’ll be happy to send you a copy — it’s absolutely free) or by subscribing to this blog to receive a weekly post that I hope will inspire your mind and warm your heart.  Or do both!

Begin by believing that it is possible — it is possible for you to trust.

For just a moment, set aside your adult-logic and conditioning.  Let go of whatever is whispering in your ear, creating doubt, worry, fear.  Exhale all of it.

Now, inhale your childhood innocence.  The you of way-back-when, when you were still gentle with yourself.  Continue to inhale the you who loved and trusted easily.  Who believed in magic.  Embrace the you who would have easily agreed with these words from Lewis Carroll’s Alice in Wonderland:

      “Why, sometimes I’ve believed as many as six impossible things before breakfast.”

Do you still think trusting is impossible?  You don’t have to go for six impossible things;  start by believing this one thing is possible.  Be the child who still believes.

Now go put on your Big Boots…an Adventure awaits you!

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“When you see someone putting on his Big Boots, you can be pretty sure that an Adventure is going to happen.”  ~ A. A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh

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In love and trust,
Leslie

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Why Trust Is Important

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Excerpt from Chapter 3: It Is What It Is.

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“My life has been filled with many misfortunes, most of which never happened.”  ~ Mark Twain

Why Trust Is Important

Why Should We Trust Life?

Cliches become cliches mostly because they speak the truth.  So whether you loathe or love the cliche It Is What It Is, there’s a whole lot of truth in it.  That said, why should we even bother trusting?

One of my dear friends decided to play Devil’s Advocate one day, and sent me an email asking, “Why should we trust life?”  I say Devil’s Advocate because he wasn’t asking the question expecting a response, but rather for me to consider how I’d respond to someone reading my blog or even to you sitting here now, holding this book and wondering, Yeah, why should I trust life?

There is a simple, one-word response to the question — and that word is:  Peace.  Being at peace in our everyday lives is the ultimate end goal and reason behind why we trust.  Trust unlocks the door to peace.  But there’s more….

The Crux of the Matter:  What IS Versus What IF

Peace is why we trust, yes, but there’s more.  First off, put yourself in the mindset of thinking of trusting life as a series of events.  The series starts with the awareness/acceptance of What IS, which in many cases is the same as letting go.  Essentially, What IS, is looking at a situation and NOT inserting layer upon layer of What IF:  “What IF I lose my job?  What IF he leaves me?   What IF I get sick?”  No, no, no.  What IS means being grounded in seeing the truth, in not inventing the stuff that makes our heads spin out of control.

Think:  whatever you are worrying about or holding on to (the What IF) and imagine yourself letting go of those What IFs and seeing What Truly IS.

Once you are aware and accept What IS, the enormous amount of energy you were giving to the worry — or the What IFs — now ends.  It has no power over you.  This is key, because before you are aware and accept What IS, your mind races with thoughts of worry and fear.  Thoughts of What IF often lead to the invention of entirely fictitious situations (which I, and Mark Twain might add, hardly ever end up happening).  These ungrounded thoughts are what take up so much unnecessary energy.  They often lead to more worry, more fear.  You become restless and irritable, you lose sleep.  The snowball effect is in full force at this point.  The “monkey-mind” is cranked up in high gear, jumping from one thought to another and another, not easily quieted.  I think it’s pretty safe to say we’ve all experienced monkey-mind to one degree or another.

Field of Pure Awareness

It is when we become aware, and accept What IS, that the monkey-mind quiets, and we can Be.  Once we are in a state of Being, we are able to observe moment by moment, from the highest field of all, Pure Awareness.

Now, if it has all made sense up to this point, but I just lost you with the Pure Awareness comment, hang tight.  I want to take it a step further and deeper.  Once you’re observing moment by moment, no longer in the worry-place and completely out of the monkey-mind chatter, whatever action you take will be in harmony with this field of Pure Awareness.  Therefore, whatever action you take will be for the highest good for all.  Remember the Sufi story of the warrior and his bride?  (from Chapter 2)

By trusting life, we accept What IS, quieting the conflict in the monkey-mind and freeing us to observe and then act from Pure Awareness, which will be for the highest good of all.  Operating for the highest good of all also takes us to the next level:  Life is not just about us at an individual level, but as living beings we are all connected in a very intimate way.  For that reason, operating for the highest good of all is something to strive for.

By trusting, we marry our free will with the Divine, knowing that we are taken care of.  We are not alone in our worries or our struggles.  We are never alone.

You are never alone.

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I have attempted to explain in words what is a knowing within me.  I encourage you to add to these concepts, question them, mold them and make them yours, changing the verbiage to suit your taste.  In doing so, you will land on your Truth, something that resonates and works for you.

Take a moment to consider how you typically approach life.  Which side of the cattle guard do you tend to hang out on?  The What IF side or the What IS side?  Depending where you are on the spectrum will immediately tell you what your beliefs are about how trust works.  And by the way, this has nothing to do with religion.  You may be the most religious person out there, attending every mass and service offered, yet between each mass, each service — maybe even during each one — you’re worrying about all of the What IFs in your life.  Becoming aware and accepting What IS is a spiritual belief and practice that anyone can adopt, regardless of religious beliefs.

 

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