Zumba and The Art of Trust

“Today, at age 44, I took my first Zumba class.  You’ll either know what I mean or not…but it was a total TRUST thing.  Glad I did it!”

And there you have it, a post on my Facebook page after attending my first, but NOT my last Zumba class.

What does Zumba have to do with trust?  Everything.

See, every time we step out of our comfort zone, every time we push ourselves to do something new, different, and a wee bit scary, we are trusting ourselves.  And in trusting ourselves, we are allowing ourselves to experience more of what life has to offer—in essence, we are allowing ourselves to grow more into WHO WE ARE.

By tasting more of life, you are trusting life.

Taste more, trust more.  Trust more, taste more.  The cycle works in both directions, back and forth.  As it works in both directions, the snowball continues to grow…in a good way, not a bad one.

If you were born to dance, with a natural swing in your hips and a persistent rhythm or beat thrumming in your head, this example probably makes no sense to you.  Like I said on Facebook…”You’ll either know what I mean or not.”  But if you’re like me, someone who prefers silence in her head, and deeper, a little girl who grew up believing swinging-hips were meant for other girls, the thought of dancing, and dancing in public (!!), was more than a wee bit scary.

I do not drink alcohol.  I have nothing against alcohol, I simply don’t like the taste.  At least that’s what I’ve always told myself…or is it that deep down within the quiet places inside me, I’m afraid of losing control?  I have never tried pot.  I was teased in high school for it:  “Oh, you think you’re too good or something?”  No.  Not at all.  It just never seemed like an especially good idea to me.  Or again, was I too scared of the unknown?

No drinking.  No drugs.  And no dancing?!  Girl, live a little!  So I did.  I danced.  I moved my hips.  I raised my arms above my head and swung them wildly.  And you know what else?  I smiled like a lunatic the entire time!  Later that day, after the music had left my head, a bit of it remained in my cells…and in that moment I could easily place the feeling that had created the genuine child-like-beaming-smile:  I felt free.  I trusted myself, I let go, and I felt FREE.

That is the art of trust.

That’s what trust is all about.  We trust in order to let go.  We trust to find our inner peace.  And what does inner peace feel like?  Your inner peace is the feeling of freedom.

Consider these facts: I have studied trust for 16 years, I write about trust, I coach one-on-one on trust, next month I will start offering trust workshops for small groups of women, yet it is still a daily practice of mine.  I have not mastered it.  But I am very, very good at it now, and I can show you how to become good at it, too.

If learning to trust yourself, to let go, and to feel free sound inviting to you, consider yourself officially invited!  Mark your calendar for January 31, 2015.  I will be offering my first, but NOT last trust workshop in the Dallas area (limit 20 participants).

Stay tuned here on my blog or on the Trust Life Today Facebook page for more details and information on how to sign up.

I look forward to connecting with you:  leave a comment, send a private message (leslie@trustlifetoday.com), or come see me soon in person.  Until then…whatever you choose to be, do, or try for the first time, OWN IT!

the art of trust

Love,
Leslie

Do You Know When to Hold On and When to Let Go?

Hold On or Let Go?

In spiritual circles there is much talk about the path you’re on.  How one person’s path is not better than another’s, how they are merely different paths.  You also hear a lot about the journey:  a heart’s journey, a soul’s journey, a hero’s journey, the journey often synonymous with life.  Paths and journeys, journeys and paths.

But what if there is a third option, something that we can use to contrast and help us determine when to hold on and when to let go?  Let’s consider this:

Adults follow paths, while children explore.  Children explore.

Do you see the difference, no matter how subtle it may appear?  And if you don’t see the difference, can you feel it?

Adults follow paths.  Paths lead somewhere—somewhere the adult is probably invested in—already married to the outcome the adult is seeking.  The path that leads to the promotion.  The path that leads to glory.

While children explore, especially young children.  They explore for the fun of it, for the curiosity of it, for the sheer thrill of it…but not for the outcome of it.  Children are not invested in the end result.

Before you set off on your next journey or choose your next path, just reflect for a moment and ask yourself, “Is this a path-sort-of-thing or would I be better served to simply explore?”  Depending on the context, it could reasonably be either.

It is the energy that is different.  Continue Reading

A Solid Technique for Letting Go of the Past

As a beginning, middle, and end to this blog post, I could simply say that letting go of the past is easier said than done.  Period.  The end.

But that doesn’t do either of us much good.

It’s safe to say we’d both agree that no one really wants to walk around day after day holding on to anger, unable to forgive, worried about when the next shoe will drop.  No, of course not.  Yet how often do you find yourself doing precisely that?  Holding on, unable to let go.

You’re not alone.  We all do it.

Because of this, I’d like to offer a visual that you can access in under two seconds, something that will hopefully serve as a reminder, propelling you forward into a state of letting go (or at least provide a little nudge in that direction).  Continue Reading

Trusting Can Be So #!?!@#!

The thing that sucks about writing/talking about trust for a living is when trusting simply becomes #!?!@#! Take this morning: I was on the phone with my credit card company, followed by the wireless phone company for over two hours. OVER TWO HOURS I tell you! Finally (maybe) everything is PART WAY resolved. After I got off the phone and rubbed my red, hot ear, I decided only one thing would suffice: it was time to throw a toddler tantrum—kick, scream, the works!

But no…there was this calm, serene voice that said, “Remember, everything happens for a reason. Look for the lesson. Don’t get angry over the situation. Anger doesn’t help.” Blah, blah, blah…. Shut up already! I am angry!

Well, maybe not angry. Annoyed. SUPER annoyed!

Smudged Trust

 

There was suspected fraud on my credit card, not even actual fraud. Suspected fraud, what does that even mean? Steven, Fraud Supervisor, explained it to me (which made sense at the time…and totally evades me now).

This suspected fraud has led to a to-do list that is longer than Santa’s “good-list” on his best year. And oh!…the time I’m sure to spend completing this to-do list! I won’t go into details, mostly because you have your own annoying day-to-day issues to deal with; you don’t need to hear about mine. Besides, my day is not busier nor is my time more valuable than yours—yet it is this perceived loss of time I am so annoyed about.  Continue Reading