Learning How to Trust — The Ultimate Guide

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Thank you for joining me in this step-by-step guide to Learning How to Trust.

Below are titles and links to each of the seven posts in the Learning How to Trust series.  If you’re interested in learning how to trust, this guide is definitely for you.  While you’re reading through each post, please don’t hesitate to contact me at any time with questions, comments, concerns, anything.  This is what I do!  This is what I LOVE doing, sharing with others — how trust works… and ultimately, I want you to have the tools to bring more peace into your home, your life, your being.

Learning How to Trust Series, Complete Summary

Part 1:  “The First Step in Trusting. Can It Really Be That Simple?”  Click here for the full article.  

Part 2: “Why Don’t People Trust?”  Click here for the full article.

Part 3:  “Top 4 Beliefs For a Foundation in Trust”  Click here for the full article.

Part 4:  “How To Practice Trust as You Go About Your Day”  Click here for the full article.

Part 5:  “Who Is Really in Control?”  Click here for the full article.

Part 6:  “The Top 5 Reasons to Let Go of Control”  Click here for the full article. 

Part 7:  “Tell Me Again…Why Should I Trust?”  Click here for the full article.

 

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You Now Have the Key to Trust

It’s been a pleasure sharing this KEY information with you — information which has been life changing for me.

Please email me with questions or leave a comment below.  I’d love to connect with you!  leslie@trustlifetoday.com

As much as I’ve enjoyed sharing this guide with you, I must admit I’m eager to return to my typical writing style: story-telling, sharing insights into trust, love, peace, forgiveness, synchronicity…all of our favorite TLT topics!  :-)

Again, thank you for joining me on this journey of learning to trust.

In love and trust,
Leslie

 

 

Tell Me Again…Why Should I Trust?

Tell Me Again…Why Should I Trust?

(Part 7 of 7 in the Learning How to Trust Series)

Here we are, TLT Readers — the seventh and last part in our series, Learning How to Trust.  A lot of material has been covered.  Hopefully, the nuggets provided here have been 1) golden  :-)  and 2) small enough that you’ve been able to digest them and put them into practice all along the way.

In the previous post, “The Top 5 Reasons to Let Go of Control,” I added a word collage of the elements that have made an important appearance throughout this series.  In no particular order, they are:

Awareness of What Is        Trust      Letting Go      No Fear
Never Being Alone       A Power Higher Than You        Practice on Your Stuff
No Worries         Everything Happens For a Reason
Praying With No Attachment to the Outcome           Surrendering
Foundation/Belief System        Trust Begins Inside of You

Each of the six posts that have led up to today have either touched briefly or extensively on each.

Today, however, the focus is blown up and expanded to the bigger, overarching question of Why Should I Trust?

As I’ve said before, I can answer this is one sentence:

Because it brings me peace.

I believe we, as human beings, seek peace more than any other thing in the world.  More than love.  More than happiness.  It’s Peace.

I believe our end goal in learning how to trust is peace.

There’s another key element at play here, something I call the throughout goal.  This is a constant frame of mind that trust brings as you’re working through a circumstance, moving through to the end goal of peace.  And this throughout goal is:  Keeping fear at bay.

By trusting everything happens for a reason, you keep fear at bay.
By trusting you don’t have to understand why something has happened or how it will be resolved, you keep fear at bay.
By trusting there is a higher power, one who sees far more than you do, and that this higher power dwells within you, you keep fear at bay.
By trusting in this foundation you’ve established, you keep fear at bay.

Because I will tell you, once fear sets in, once fear’s claws take hold, it’s damn hard to loosen the grip.

This is why I believe the throughout goal of trusting is to keep fear at bay, not allowing it to take root and grow, infesting your life with anything but peace.  Master the throughout goal, and the end goal of peace is yours, yours, yours.

I believe trust is the natural antidote to fear.  I also believe trust unlocks the door to peace.  They work together brilliantly.

And remember where trust begins — Trust begins inside of you.

I encourage you to look inward.  Look inside yourself and believe that the amount you trust depends on how strong you are in knowing: I’VE GOT THIS!  I can handle this…whatever this may be.

As you feel the peace enter your being, tell yourself, “I am taken care of.  I am never alone.  There is a bigger plan that I am unaware of.  I trust.”

 

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My son in the pool. The vision of peaceful trust.

 

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Take a closer look…. Peaceful Trust.

[The above pictures inspired the following article, "Today I Feel Peace Like That."  If you're new to TLT and unfamiliar with this post, I encourage you to click here for an extra dose of peace; a true story of the morning I went into the hospital.]

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Now that you have completed this series, it’s time to practice.  Remember, trust is a daily practice, not something we master, check-the-box, and declare we are done.  No, it is a daily practice like anything worthwhile.

I hope you have seen and felt the life-changing elements within Learning How to Trust:  pieces like What If versus What Is, a trust foundation, letting go of control, and so much more.  Think about your family, friends, co-workers.  Can you think of someone who would benefit from even one of these messages?  If so, please share the love.

In love and trust,
Leslie

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The Top 5 Reasons to Let Go of Control

The Top 5 Reasons to Let Go of Control

(Part 6 of 7 in the Learning How to Trust Series)

Our previous TLT post discussed “Who Is Really In Control” of our lives.  Early in the post, a line in the sand was drawn between what we have control over and what we don’t.

What Do We Have Control Over?

We have control over the choices we make in life, how we choose to react to life.  Personally, after I fully understood (and embraced) the fact that I am not in control of outcomes, people, and situations, I was able to see the following as the true gifts that they are.

1.  The Gift of Accepting What Is

  • no inventing What If stories that don’t serve you
  • because really, when you think about it, what are those stories?  DRAMA.  Pure, unnecessary drama.

2.  The Gift of Setting Aside Your Fears and Worries

  • leading to better sleep
  • more peace of mind throughout the day, hence, more focus on what you want out of life, what you enjoy
  • because let’s face it, I’m not sure you’d find anyone who would tell you they enjoy being worried or fearful

3.  The Gift of Praying With No Attachment to the Outcome

  • shifting our prayers from requests that have the potential to turn into begging or bartering with God
  • then becoming angry, disillusioned, or bringing some other negative energy into your realm when you don’t receive the outcome you asked for/begged for/set up a false expectation for

4.  The Gift of Knowing You Are Never Alone

  • that the answers to all of your questions lie inside of you
  • that you have access to all of the wonders and wisdom of the Divine who dwells within you

5.  The Gift of Surrendering and Letting Go

Which Will Lead You Directly to Trust

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It’s a full circle journey, my friends!  And you don’t even need to think of it as a linear process.  You know how to do this!  You know there’s:

Awareness of What Is        Trust      Letting Go      No Fear
Never Being Alone       A Power Higher Than You        Practice on Your Stuff
No Worries         Everything Happens For a Reason
Praying With No Attachment to the Outcome           Surrendering
Foundation/Belief System        Trust Begins Inside of You

It all works together.  And to what end goal?  Peace.  Yes, peace is our end goal, and we’ll be touching on it in the upcoming and last post in our series, Learning How to Trust.  Thank you for continuing to learn about trust and for sharing this information with others!

In love and trust,
Leslie

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Who Is Really in Control?

Who Is Really in Control?

(Part 5 of 7 in the Learning How to Trust Series)

Today begins Part 5 in the series, Learning How to Trust.  Our topic for the day is a biggie — all in one word: CONTROL!

Much of our lives is spent trying to gain or maintain control over a situation, a person, or an outcome.  When this fails, we get the sense that we’re out of control.  Feelings of anxiety, worry, and helplessness surface, which all boil down to FEAR at the most basic level.

At what point in our lives do we become aware that we’re not in control?  Oh wait…you do know that, right?  That we are not in control.  Seriously, it’s true.  When I stopped to ask myself what I have control over, the answer, as I scratched my head, was, hmm, not a heck of a lot.

Let’s cut right to the big one — I have no control over my mortality.  Not when I die, not how I die.  Now that that’s out of the way….

Okay.  How about this one?  In general, do I have control over my kids?  I may occasionally live under the illusion that I have control over them, but the truth is, I don’t.  I have control over the food I put in front of them, but not necessarily what or how much they eat.  I have control over what time I put them to bed, but not necessarily how much sleep they get.  Or how well they sleep.

Again, what do I have control over?  It may not seem like a lot, but this is HUGE.  I have control over choices about how I live.  And I choose to live believing in a higher power.  One who knows and sees far more than I am capable of.  One who knows that if I die today, tomorrow, or decades from now, I will have touched the precise lives I was supposed to touch within that precise period of time.

Part of having control over how I choose to live goes back to a previous lesson we learned:  how we react to a situation.  Do we choose to invent What Ifs that poise us to internalize fear and worry or do we choose to see What Is?  One is a prison, a self made mind-prison, the other is the key that unlocks the cell. 

When it comes to controlling outcomes and other people, I don’t have much control at all.  That’s simply the truth.

Once I understood how fruitless my efforts to control ANYTHING were, the act of surrendering and letting go became much easier.

Going back to an early TLT post, and to this day, the story that illustrates more depth on how trust works than any other story I have run across, I’d like to re-share a famous Sufi story with you:

A man just got married and was returning home with his wife.  They were crossing a lake in a boat when suddenly a great storm arose.

Although the husband was a strong warrior and had always protected her, the wife became very much afraid because it seemed almost hopeless.  The boat was small, but the storm was huge, and at any moment they were going to be drowned.  But the man sat silently, calm and quiet, as if nothing were happening.

The woman was trembling as she said, “Are you not afraid?  This may be our last moment of life!  It doesn’t seem that we will be able to reach the shore.  Only some miracle can save us; otherwise, death is certain.  Are you not afraid?  Are you mad?  Are you a stone or something?”

The man laughed and took his sword out of its sheath.  The woman was even more puzzled.

What was he doing?  Then he brought the sword close to the woman’s neck — so close that just a small gap was there.  It was almost touching her neck.  He said, “Are you afraid?”

She started to laugh and said, “Why should I be afraid?  If the sword is in your hands, why should I be afraid?  I know you love me.”

He put the sword away and said, “This is my answer.  I know the power I call God.  He loves me, and the sword is in His hands, as the storm is in His hands — so whatever is going to happen is going to be good.  If we survive, good;  if we don’t survive, good — no matter what happens, Thy Will Be Done.”

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“…whatever is going to happen is going to be good.  If we survive, good; if we don’t survive good….

Excuse me?  If we don’t survive, GOOD?

Yes.  That’s correct.  Good.  It is not for us to understand.  There are more factors at play here than we can humanly comprehend in this line of thinking/believing, so I don’t even try.  Instead, I trust.

This is the trust one must imbibe. Such tremendous trust is capable of transforming your whole life. And ONLY such tremendous trust is capable of transforming your life—less than that won’t do.

Chinese Character for Trust

It’s not to late to share with a friend, as we still have a few more posts to go in this Learning How to Trust series.  Next we’ll be discussing letting go of control…and all that that means.  Stay tuned TLT Readers!  And thank you for your support in passing along the message of trust.

In love and trust,
Leslie

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