It’s fair to say that every article I write has as its main character Trust. Yes, sometimes Love dominates the post, or perhaps Letting Go, but no matter how obvious or how subtle an article is, this blog is about Trust.
Based on your feedback, we’re going to dedicate this week to explicitly exploring What is Trust?
Let’s start with where trust comes from. Here’s a commonly held belief of how trust comes to be in our lives:
Our trust is shaped by our environment. That being the case, if we were raised in a household where our parents, teachers, and other influential people exhibited a high level of trust, speaking to us openly about Life, sharing, nurturing, teaching healthy boundaries, and so forth, how we see trust, from a very early age, was shaped accordingly. We understand that trust begins inside us and radiates outward.
However, if we were raised in a family where we were taught that trust must be earned or that we must prove ourselves in order to be trusted, or that it can be taken away with no explanation, well, it’s understandable that we grew up trusting no one, not even ourselves.
As depleting as the latter scenario is, the idea exists. And what’s more, it rings true for many people – – this idea that trust must be earned; that you must prove yourself worthy in order to be trusted. Or that trust will be taken away if you screw up. If you are in this camp, you might believe that trust is external – that it doesn’t begin with YOU on the inside.
Although this is a belief system that is held by many, it doesn’t mean that it’s true.
So, what is true? In order to trust, you must start by trusting yourself first. Trust is knowing that you are able to handle any situation that comes your way.
Does that mean you won’t experience betrayal? That you won’t endure hurt? No and no… you may still experience betrayal and hurt. What it means is that instead of plotting how to protect yourself and spending countless hours trying to predict what another person is going to say or do, you stop all of that outward, externally aimed effort and look inside first.
I encourage us all to look inward. Look inside ourselves and believe that the amount we trust depends on how strong we are in knowing: I GOT THIS! I can handle this… whatever this may be.
I cannot tell you how rich you’ll feel once you’re able to do this. Learning the truth of trust felt like magic to me. As if someone had shared a secret with me, more precious than jewels. And here’s the icing on the cake: knowing that Trust lives inside of you places you in a strong, confident position.
And perhaps this goes without saying, but I’ll mention it anyway. Along with understanding this fundamental truth of trust, comes a bigger truth: God dwells within you. You are taken care of. You are not alone in your worries, your struggles, your joys, or your triumphs.
Trust you can handle what comes your way. And although Trust comes from inside you, remember, you are never alone. God dwells within you.
What do you think about Trust? Let us know in the comments below.