The Art of Managing Your Life (Or Not)

“I find it fascinating that most people plan their vacations with better care than they plan their lives.  Perhaps that is because escape is easier than change.”  ~Jim Rohn


Do you plan out your day?  Your week?  Your month?  If so, how much do you plan?  How far do you take it?  I’ve known people who could easily have PhD’s in planning… from Harvard!, and others who wouldn’t know what a simple calendar looked like, much less how to use it, if it hit them up-side the head.

So, where do I fit in?  Post PhD — I’m the dean of the School of Planning!

Sadly, it’s true.  And another thing that’s true:  I AM NOT BRAGGING.

I had to ask myself recently, with all of my views on Trust, on Letting Go, my beliefs on how Life ‘works,‘ my vow to experience What Is, and all of the other very zen qualities I surround myself with on a daily basis, how zen is it to schedule my meditation time on my iPhone?


At what point does our use of calendars, day planners, iPhones, and any other tool slide over from the helpful category to the hinder our growth category?  I mean, who is managing who, here?


The Key Is: Balance


(Free tip of the day — Balance is the key to LOTS of things.  Life, for one.)

Find that balance within your life.  At this stage in the game, my guess is you know yourself well enough to know what works for you and what doesn’t.

No?  If not, then here’s what I recommend:

If you fall into Option 1 above, the PhD planning person, once you’ve finished your planning ritual, whatever it may be, sit quietly.  How does it feel?  How do you feel?  Deep inside?  Do you feel calm, knowing that all i’s have been dotted and all t’s have been crossed?  Do you feel you have the freedom to change and be flexible as things arise unexpectedly?  If so, THAT is what balance feels like.  Your planning method works for you.

However, if you feel a tight, rigidness inside, that’s a clue that you’re holding on to something (??) tightly.  So tightly that any change of schedule would shatter your world.

Which begs the question:  If you’re holding your breath, hoping upon hope that everything goes according to your plan, constantly fixated on getting through each task, where’s the enjoyment?

This reminds me of a puzzle my mother and I put together the summer my husband, boys, and I were waiting for our current house to be built.  It now hangs in our laundry room:

If this is you, one who counts the days or the tasks, and you want to change, I have two examples I’d like to share with you that can be used as your guide.

1)  Check out “Cultivating A Spirit of Wander,” written by Bill Apablasa, blogger/writer for*

This is a profound post and will likely get you out of your comfort zone in a hurry (which is a good thing here; shock your system!), encouraging you to jump in feet first.

If you like what Bill’s suggesting, but don’t really know what that looks like, then….

2)  Check out “A Day of Pleasure. WITH NO GUILT.” for a true life example of a day when I went “off the grid” earlier this year.

I believe there is an art to managing our lives.  But as we manage them to be more productive, more efficient, more MORE, let’s also make sure we’re living our lives, enjoying them to the fullest.  Balance.

“I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve the world and a desire to enjoy the world.  This makes it hard to plan the day.”    ~E. B. White


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There is an old saying that goes, “We’re born into a house with a thousand rooms, but only live in one.”  This website is about the other 999 rooms.

Bill’s writing stimulates my mind and encourages me to see the world differently, something this very in-the-box girl welcomes as a personal challenge.  He makes me laugh out loud with his quick wit.  I am never disappointed when I visit his site.

And the good, no, wonderful news is, he has just gotten started!  If you’re like me, I like starting from square one (room one), and proceeding in an orderly fashion, building as I go.  Therein lies the beauty — because this site is so new and fresh, your eyes will be some of the first to see it!  You can be a part of this amazing journey from the ground level.

I’m very rarely in-the-know about stuff out there, usually arriving late to the party.  However, this time, I feel as if I’m sharing a secret with you.

If you enjoy Bill’s blog, please consider sharing it on Facebook or emailing it to your friends.  Let’s not keep this secret to ourselves!!