We’re all sexual beings, so get over the sub-title. Stick with me for a bit…it will all come together, in a very PG sort of way.
When I first became serious about sharing a message around Trust Life Today, what that means to me, what I’d like to accomplish with it, etc., I had to stop and ask myself some very important questions. I wanted to make sure my motives were “right” and I wasn’t operating from an egoistic standpoint. I walked through several exercises to come out on the other end, happy with the outcome.**
Once I was clear on my motivation, then I switched gears and began to think about how I would measure success. I’m hard wired to be results driven, so this made perfect sense to me. And thus, my formula of “Me, Icing on the Cake, and Orgasm” was born. (If you’re turned off by the word orgasm, I mean no offense…please replace it with Home Run, Touchdown, or whatever word is more palatable.)
First Measure of Success: Me.
For each article I write for Trust Life Today, at its conclusion, I must feel personally satisfied, that I’ve given you my best. I must know that I have shared a piece of me that I feel you will benefit from or grow. It is my intent that this looks/feels like sharing love or insights that:
- provide comfort
- aid in personal growth
- help us to live more authentically
- broaden perspectives
- or in this case, and in the case of the article on Surrender, allow me to be vulnerable and practice humility
A basic, but meaningful connection must be made on some level. If, at the end of writing an article, I don’t feel like I’ve accomplished one or a combination of these things, then I have not met my first Measure of Success. I will either revise until I hit it, or I will delete. Bottom line, if I don’t hit this mark, there’s no point in moving on to the next level; it dies here.
Second Measure of Success: Icing on the Cake.
Each time I receive confirmation from at least one person that I did, in fact, hit the mark above, the second Measure of Success is fulfilled. Many of you have done this by sending me emails, contributing comments, or posting directly on Facebook. How you choose to do it is irrelevant. What I want you to know, is how deeply grateful I am with each word of encouragement and support. This is a very sweet spot. Thank you.
Third Measure of Success: Orgasm.
This one is truly special. This Measure of Success is hit when I receive the overwhelming email, especially when it’s from someone unexpected. Let’s say I make the assumption that Person A would no more enjoy reading my blog than sit for hours working on their income tax. Then, ‘out of the blue,’ I receive an email saying what a difference a specific article made in their life. THAT, my friends, is the orgasm. I didn’t expect it (remember, I didn’t even think they would be reading my blog). But man, when I get an email like that, I can guarantee you that it brings tears to my eyes each and every time. My heart is filled with joy and my cup runneth over like nothing I can put into words, hence my word choice.
The point of this article is to provide an example illustrating that Measures of Success come in all shapes and sizes. I don’t believe there is one right way to measure success. I do believe your happiness needs to appear at the core of your measurement of success, and with my three levels, my happiness escalates. As my happiness escalates, I want to write and share more and more with you, spreading words that in some way, will expand the web of positivity. And thus the cycle goes. And thus the positivity grows.
So I encourage you, do what makes you happy! Put some measures in place — to keep you true to your goals and on track, if nothing else.
“Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it.” -Johann Wolfgang
**If you’re interested in the method I used, send me a message, I’ll be happy to share.