How often have you heard that optimists see the glass half full and that pessimists see the glass half empty? Pretty standard.
Of course, we aren’t really talking about just a glass; we are talking about much more than a glass. We are talking about LIFE—about all of the situations and experiences that make up our rich lives. Things like:
- career twists and turns
- changes in our health status
- joys with our children
- pains with our children
- and on and on….
I suspect that for years you’ve been told you were a glass half full person or a glass half empty person. You may have even bought into the label, describing yourself as such to others. Let me ask you, how does it feel to be seen by others as a glass half full person? Pretty darn wonderful! Yes, who me? The person who has it all together? Sure, I’ll take it! And how does it feel to be the glass half empty person? Pretty darn un-wonderful. Don’t mind me. Just off to figure out how to fix another thing that’s wrong with me.
Only there is nothing wrong with you. It’s all BS; it simply is not true.
What if I told you that the status of “your glass” does not matter one bit?
What matters is this: Do you have a way of filling your glass?
Glass Half Full? Who Cares?!
What Does Your Pitcher Look Like?
For the myriad number of distinct pitchers there are in the world, there are probably quadruple that number of ways to take that pitcher and fill your glass, regardless of its contents. Your job is to find your way.
How do you fill your glass? That’s the real question.
Let’s Focus on Your Pitcher
Stop focusing on whether or not your glass is half full or half empty, and instead, focus on the multiple ways you can fill your glass.
Here are 10 EASY ways (10 different pitchers you can use) to fill your glass right up to the top:
- Trusted Friend Pitcher – Call up a trusted friend and share what you’re experiencing. You know who this person is—they are the person that within five minutes will have you feeling more like you—either through laughter, giving great advice, or just plain, ol’ listening. They just know.
- Exercise Pitcher – Is the treadmill calling your name? A few laps in the pool? Maybe a Pilates class? Whatever your exercise of choice is, chances are that after just 20 minutes, your glass will be in jeopardy of overflowing!
- Nature Pitcher – Take a walk on your favorite trail. Stop to inhale the honeysuckle. Pause to admire the vibrant yellow petals or the subdued purple hue of a flower. Go sit under a tree. Heck, sit IN a tree on a sturdy branch if you can find one.
- Water Pitcher – Be around water. I’m not talking about the ocean or a waterfall (although if either is near you, most definitely take advantage)—I’m talking about any water. The act of taking a shower can be cathartic. As the water comes in contact with your scalp, your face, your shoulders, and on down to your feet, feel it coating you like a warm embrace. Follow the feeling until you see the water exit the drain. As the water washes out and away, so does whatever was resting on you and weighing you down. Wrap yourself in a plush towel and as you step out, notice the lightness in your step as well as in your heart. (You can do a similar exercise while washing dishes.)
- Meditation Pitcher – This can also be called the Breath Pitcher. Simply sit and notice your breath. That’s all. If you’re wondering what it means to notice your breath, here is a simple breathing technique I use when teaching children how to meditate (and it works amazingly well for adults, too). Become so aware of your breathing that you can feel cool air enter your nostrils as you inhale and feel warm/hot air exit as you exhale. Repeat slowly for just 60 seconds and you will feel so calm and peaceful you’ll find yourself asking, “Glass? What glass?”
- Night-Out-On-the-Town Pitcher – Go out to eat. Dancing. To the movies. To a comedy club. Go get out of your head for a few hours. Consider it a mini-vacation to provide that balance you so need.
- Cuppa Tea Pitcher – A personal favorite of mine. One cup of Earl Gray with cream, dog at my feet, other than her snores, complete silence. Five minutes of that = Heaven.
- Book Pitcher – Get lost in a book, or anything that feeds your soul. Knitting, Sudoku, chess, writing, even organizing or cleaning! Whatever fills your spirit is the same thing that fills your glass!
- Pet Pitcher – Stroke your cat, rub your dog’s ear between your thumb and crook of your index finger, talk non-sense to your bird as he perches on your finger. Love on your pet and your glass will be filled in record time.
- Sleep Pitcher – Go to bed!
Which pitcher will you grab? Will you go for a combination of pitchers? A little from this one, a lot from another? Sure! Why not? Depending on the situation, you will know just the one, or ones, to reach for and exactly how much to pour. And hey, I only listed ten, there are hundreds of pitchers at your disposal.
Glass Half Full or Glass Half Empty?
The important thing to remember is this: it does not matter whether you see your glass half full or half empty, what matters is remembering to reach for your pitcher and pour.