Does the title of today’s post speak to you? Maybe. Or do you find it to be on the airy-fairy, hippy-dippy side? Maybe. Feel free to place any label on today’s article that you want, but please stop the habit of labeling yourself. And especially stop using the categories/labels of good and bad, right and wrong, with yourself.
Today is Father’s Day…which reminds me of the time following the passing of my step-father two and a half years ago. For weeks I didn’t much want to write. Or read. Or talk. Or play with my dog. Or engage with my family. I remember having such a horrible sore throat I didn’t even want to sip my cuppa tea. Luckily, I had the flu, so I got an easy-out on all of it.
Yet an old, nagging habit wanted to label my mood, my lack of energy, my sadness with the words: bad and wrong. Those are bad characteristics, wrong tendencies. I was extremely critical of myself for not being more productive, not returning phone calls faster, not immediately writing thank-you notes to those special friends who sent flowers to Dad’s funeral. And the deluge of rain we were experiencing didn’t help.
What did help, was remembering that nothing is ever completely wrong. Walking through our foyer to my office, I often glance over at the stopped grandfather clock and think, Even a stopped clock is right twice a day.
Reconnect With Yourself
Good. Bad. Right. Wrong. The Buddhist nun Pema Chodron sums it up best:
We could learn to stop when the sun goes down and when the sun comes up. We could learn to listen to the wind; we could learn to notice that it’s raining or snowing or hailing or calm. We could reconnect with the weather that is ourselves, and we could realize that it’s sad. The sadder it is, and the vaster it is, the more our heart opens. We can stop thinking that good practice is when it’s smooth and calm, and bad practice is when it’s rough and dark. If we can hold it all in our hearts, then we can make a proper cup of tea.”
Love yourself enough today to provide a quiet space for sustenance to enter your soul. Or a loud space. Or a dancing, jumping space. Or a crying space. No labels, categories, or judgement, just allow as you reconnect with yourself.
Do you know someone who could benefit from tapping in to more love and trust? Don’t be shy, please share. You never know, this might be just the thing they’ve been searching for!
In love and trust,
P.S. Happy Father’s Day today!
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