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Love,
Leslie



It’s All Special

One week ago, almost to the minute, I was preparing to walk to the podium, tap the mic, and deliver a eulogy for my oldest brother.

While typing the words above, I felt my throat tighten and my eyes sting. I was not expecting that.

Around an hour ago I posted the following on my Facebook page:
“Are there days you just feel CRAZY-BLESSED? Like, more than in a good mood, I’m talking about way deep down in your toenails blessed? Today is one of those days for me. Just wanted to share.”

After I clicked the “post” button, I realized how little I share about the raw, sorrow-filled moments of life. I mean, who wants to be the Bummer-Person? Not I.

And there’s nothing wrong with that. I like to grieve alone. It’s what feels right to me. I like the silence when I go within and feel the loss in the way I need to feel it.

That said, I felt guilty earlier today. Someone had just heard the news and called to check on me. After answering the phone with a little too much chipper in my voice, I heard the voice on the other end of the line: somber and barely a whisper. I immediately thought, Moron! Put some damn sadness in your voice!  You are supposed to sound sad!

So I did. I took my voice down a full octave and slowly told my friend of the circumstances around the end of my brother’s life.

After I hung up the phone I returned to my home-office; it was time to get back to work. I saw that today my husband’s grandmother turned 101. And when I tell you she is a remarkable lady, I’m not even close to kidding. I called her last week just to chat. She asked me to hold for just a second while she turned off the iron. She explained to me that she had been doing a little “light ironing.”

“Light ironing? Are you kidding me?” I said. “What in the world are you ironing?” I asked.

“My clothes for tomorrow.”

“Where are you going? Somewhere special?”

“Leslie, honey. When you get to be my age, it’s all special.”

Wow. Yes. Why yes, it is.

Fast forward to just a moment ago as I wrote the Facebook post above. Sitting at my desk, cuppa tea by my side, dog at my feet, older son upstairs sleeping/under the weather, sun streaming in my office just-so, and feeling a deep, deep gratitude for Life. How could I not share that?  Feelings like that are indeed special.

But friends, it is only by walking through my grief, by honoring the feelings of sadness and loss that I am truly able to appreciate the feelings on the opposite end of the spectrum.

If you are feeling sad today, or maybe you even feel lost, stop for a moment and sit with those feelings. Honor what you’re feeling and know, believe, that its opposite will come. And when it does, honor that as well! Don’t rush to the next and the next and the next. We all have this tendency to push that accelerator down and GO when we’re feeling on top of the world.

Give as much reverence to the on-top-of-the-world feeling. Honor it. Stop and breathe it in. Trust yourself enough to know you’re strong enough to feel whatever feeling is upon you. Know that that is one of the ways we show ourselves love.

Remember the words of the 101 year-old ironing grandma: It’s all special.

And I do mean ALL.

Love,
Leslie

If today’s message spoke to you, won’t you please share it on Facebook or forward to a friend?  You never know, it might be just the thing someone in your circle of friends is meant to experience today.  Thank you!

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Excited and Scared

Have you ever felt excited and scared at the same time? Is it even possible?

Of course it is!

And that is exactly where I sit today. And probably where I’ll still be sitting tomorrow.

See, there are two big additions on the horizon:

1) there’s the kick-off of a new workshop on how to LOVE & TRUST yourself (100% excited, 0% scared)

and

2) the debut of a new radio show is fast approaching  (Aye yai yai…I’m too scared to even break down the percentages…I don’t want to frighten myself more!)

But here’s the kicker: don’t I have a belief system that says everything happens for a reason? Everything happens for a purpose? To trust is to let go and believe all works out for your higher good?

So why the fear?

Because trust isn’t something we master in a day. Trust is a daily practice. And just like you, I continue to practice it each and every day. Just like you, some days are better than others. Some situations are better than others. My goal is to become aware of the situations that trigger fear and discover what underlying feelings are lurking in the pond below…just below the surface…that pond that is all too easy to ignore and swim away from, claiming it’s too murky to see below its rippled edge, so I’ll just keep swimming until I reach the edge, hoist myself out of the water in one swift movement, and walk—maybe run—away hoping the more distance I create the more the fear will vanish. Except it doesn’t.

Why not just dive in?  Why swim, walk, run at all?

Sometimes we are just not ready.  Sometimes there are lessons to learn along the way that we might miss if we never felt the fear, explored the feelings beneath it, and worked through those feelings and experiences.  Those lessons, feelings, and experiences are exactly what allow us to grow.

So for today, I choose NOT to let go of my fear and NOT to hold on to it either.  I choose to feel the feelings underneath the fear, to become aware of what experiences are presenting themselves to contribute to my growth, and I will even up my game one notch and actually try to be thankful for the fear.

At this time I’d like to thank YOU.  Just by reading my words, by allowing me to write them in a place where you visit and take them in, you have allowed me to acknowledge and release some of my fear.  It is no longer bottled up in my mind;  the more I allow it to release, the more it is set free.  The more I AM SET FREE.  Thank you.

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Just Love & Trust:  Simple Tools for Trust in Action – yes, I am 100% excited and 0% scared about the new, upcoming workshop!  I’ve worked really hard to offer a full-sensory experience for you (you’ll see what I mean!).  The number of participants is limited to 20:  a small-ish, manageable, and intimate number.  Please click on the link to read more about what you can expect.  I hope to see you soon!

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Beginning February 4, 2015 please tune-in to listen to Love, Trust & Pixie Dust on eWN Radio Network.  I will be broadcasting every Wednesday at 11:00 AM CST.  No worries if you’re not available at 11:00 AM Wednesdays, shortly after the show airs it will be converted into a podcast, so you can always listen to the show at a time that’s convenient for you.

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Is there something you’re excited and scared about?  Begin with the first step:  become aware of it.  Now let’s get it out of your mind, let’s make it more real:  acknowledge it by sharing with someone.  Would you like the anonymity of sharing with a stranger?  Then share with me.  You can email your fear and excitement to Leslie@TrustLifeToday.com — and I won’t even make you do anything about it (not unless you want me to!).  ;-)  It’s not uncommon that in simply sharing with another, the process of releasing and letting go is activated.

Start today.  I did.  And I already feel so much better.  Again, thank you.

If today’s message spoke to you, won’t you please share it on Facebook or forward to a friend?  You never know, it might be just the thing someone in your circle of friends is meant to experience today.  Thank you!

Love,
Leslie

7 Ways to Trust and One Magic Word

Here we are, on our fourth day of 2015, not even a full week in, and I wanted to touch base and see how your New Year’s resolutions are going.  If you’re like many, you didn’t even bother jotting any down.  Everyone is so busy these days!  Why write down more things to do, more obligations—and let’s be honest—more things we are going to feel guilty about when we don’t follow through?  So instead, most people I’ve spoken to said they just don’t do resolutions anymore.

I stopped years ago, as many of you know.  I’ve gone to the WATCHWORD, my magic word:  that one word that I can easily remember and keep top-of-mind for 365 days.  Yes, I still create goals, use accountability tools, and I try to remember to celebrate big wins, but a watchword is different.  It’s a gentle, simple reminder.  And I like simple.

Here is a short list of watchwords that I, my family, friends, and clients have used in previous years:

FUN
RELAX
LISTEN
KIND (as in BE kind)
YES
LAUGH
SURRENDER
TRUTH
COMPLETE

Do any of these words speak to you?  How about this word?  TRUST.  Does that speak to you?  Or do you believe you’re so far gone in the trust-department, that it’s not even worth going there?  Chances are, if you’re here reading, which you are, you’re interested in trust.  And you believe (maybe deep down believe) it is possible to learn how to trust.

Trust is something I can help you with, something I would be honored to help you with.  The good news is, you have several options, depending on your preferred learning style, time available, and budget.  (Several are free!)

Consider These Ways to Trust:

1.  On this site, you will always have FREE trust resources available to you.  There are literally hundreds of trust posts here, right at your fingertips.

2.  Many of you took advantage of the summer special, so I decided to bring it back for this month only!  For the rest of January, I am offering “The Ultimate Guide to Trust” FREE!  By subscribing to Trust Life Today (located at the top and bottom of this page), you will be sent a complimentary copy.  Have you already subscribed and would still like a copy?  No worries, simply email me at: leslie@trustlifetoday.com and I will make sure you receive a copy!

3.  Starting January 28th, you can listen to me as I offer trust tips and take live callers on  “Love, Trust & Pixie Dust,” the newest talk radio show on Blog Talk Radio!  (I’m sooo excited!)

4.  Are you an eBook lover?  My book with the same name as the radio show:  Love, Trust & Pixie Dust, can be read on your favorite eReader.

5.  If you prefer the feel of holding a book and highlighter in your hands as you contemplate trust, I wrote Love, Trust & Pixie Dust for you.

6.  Are you more of a one-on-one person?  All of my coaching slots are currently full, but beginning February 1st, I will be opening two additional spots.  Email me at: leslie@trustlifetoday.com if you’re interested in learning more.

7.  And lastly, I hope you can join me in person for the fresh, new trust workshop!  “Just Love & Trust:  Simple Tools for Trust in Action” is being offered in north Dallas (Allen, Texas) on January 31st.  I have planned an exciting, yet intimate gathering, so I am limiting it to the first 20 people who sign up.  For details, see the blue box on the side of this page (go back up to the top…you can’t miss it).

If TRUST is your watchword, I’ve got you covered.  Regardless of the magic word you choose, seek out the help you need to be successful.  Whether it’s a coach, a book, a seminar, whatever, you have resources.  So many of us, myself included, are completely pie-in-the-sky at the beginning of the new year, then over time we fade.

Seek out the tools and people you need to make 2015 YOUR year!  Then go for it!

Happy 2015 Friends! My wish for us all…. Make this your year to TRUST YOURSELF.

Love,
Leslie

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Zumba and The Art of Trust

“Today, at age 44, I took my first Zumba class.  You’ll either know what I mean or not…but it was a total TRUST thing.  Glad I did it!”

And there you have it, a post on my Facebook page after attending my first, but NOT my last Zumba class.

What does Zumba have to do with trust?  Everything.

See, every time we step out of our comfort zone, every time we push ourselves to do something new, different, and a wee bit scary, we are trusting ourselves.  And in trusting ourselves, we are allowing ourselves to experience more of what life has to offer—in essence, we are allowing ourselves to grow more into WHO WE ARE.

By tasting more of life, you are trusting life.

Taste more, trust more.  Trust more, taste more.  The cycle works in both directions, back and forth.  As it works in both directions, the snowball continues to grow…in a good way, not a bad one.

If you were born to dance, with a natural swing in your hips and a persistent rhythm or beat thrumming in your head, this example probably makes no sense to you.  Like I said on Facebook…”You’ll either know what I mean or not.”  But if you’re like me, someone who prefers silence in her head, and deeper, a little girl who grew up believing swinging-hips were meant for other girls, the thought of dancing, and dancing in public (!!), was more than a wee bit scary.

I do not drink alcohol.  I have nothing against alcohol, I simply don’t like the taste.  At least that’s what I’ve always told myself…or is it that deep down within the quiet places inside me, I’m afraid of losing control?  I have never tried pot.  I was teased in high school for it:  “Oh, you think you’re too good or something?”  No.  Not at all.  It just never seemed like an especially good idea to me.  Or again, was I too scared of the unknown?

No drinking.  No drugs.  And no dancing?!  Girl, live a little!  So I did.  I danced.  I moved my hips.  I raised my arms above my head and swung them wildly.  And you know what else?  I smiled like a lunatic the entire time!  Later that day, after the music had left my head, a bit of it remained in my cells…and in that moment I could easily place the feeling that had created the genuine child-like-beaming-smile:  I felt free.  I trusted myself, I let go, and I felt FREE.

That is the art of trust.

That’s what trust is all about.  We trust in order to let go.  We trust to find our inner peace.  And what does inner peace feel like?  Your inner peace is the feeling of freedom.

Consider these facts: I have studied trust for 16 years, I write about trust, I coach one-on-one on trust, next month I will start offering trust workshops for small groups of women, yet it is still a daily practice of mine.  I have not mastered it.  But I am very, very good at it now, and I can show you how to become good at it, too.

If learning to trust yourself, to let go, and to feel free sound inviting to you, consider yourself officially invited!  Mark your calendar for January 31, 2015.  I will be offering my first, but NOT last trust workshop in the Dallas area (limit 20 participants).

Stay tuned here on my blog or on the Trust Life Today Facebook page for more details and information on how to sign up.

I look forward to connecting with you:  leave a comment, send a private message (leslie@trustlifetoday.com), or come see me soon in person.  Until then…whatever you choose to be, do, or try for the first time, OWN IT!

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Love,
Leslie